The Fine Art of Bullying.

The Fine Art Of Bullying 

By Kaycee Nilson 
Sept. 13, 2005 

We normally associate "bullies" as big kids in elementary schools shaking down the litter and weaker kids for their lunch money. But my dears, bullies can happen, even in adult hood. Only adult bullies do not shake us down for our lunch money, they shake us mentally for other things. 

It might be for other reasons. Reasons like ex-spouses not paying child-support because they claim they cannot get a better job because they have a huge amount of child support hanging over their heads. Well, if they would have paid the child support in the first place, the amount of back child support wouldn’t have gotten out of control, now would it? But then the bully will try to get the ex-spouse that has the children to go to the court system and say that they don’t want the back child support so that the bully can get a better job so that they "can start sending money regularly." I’m sorry Mr. Bully, but if you want me to do this, you better send SOME money via Western Union so I know that you are a man of your word and won’t keep your stupid behavior of not paying your children what they have coming to them up. 

Then there are the bullies that keep their spouses in line by controlling them through beatings and other methods of horror. People on the outside take a look at this relationship and wonder why the woman doesn’t walk. Being a victim of this in the past myself, I can tell you I didn’t walk because of pressure from my family to stay in the marriage and that the children belong in a two-parent house. Even if one of the parents is totally beating everyone in the house, you took your marriage vows seriously and you didn’t leave. I was wrong for leaving, a fact that is thrown up in my face during every phone call home. 

But I’m a better person now and my son is becoming a better person because we have someone that is a loving man. A man that isn’t beating us on a daily basis and isn’t the cause of the break-up of my marriage as some people believe. We are with a man that is encouraging us through positive enforcement to be better people and for that is truly God’s doing. 

The bully feels that they must push around others because there is something missing in their psyche. Perhaps they are being abused at home if they are a child. Or if they are an adult, perhaps they were raised in that environment and they don’t know any other way to live. They believe this is acceptable behavior. To make others hurt makes the bully feel better about themselves, because they too hurt on the inside. And we may never tap into the deep recesses of the brain of the bully to see what exactly makes them tick the way that psychiatrists have tapped into the brains of serial killers to profile them for the FBI. 

To get into the brain of a bully would be a most frightening trip, I’m sure. One would never know what one might find there, pain and scars of childhood might be in the deep recesses. Maybe just the inner desire for power and control over people. And of course the bully maybe just doing harm to others without even knowing that they are doing harm to others. And they are under the impression that they are doing the world a service by telling another person when they are wrong and what they can do to better themselves. A perfect example of this type of bully is Janice Dickerson, the lady that claims to be the "World’s First Super Model" and her antics can be seen on VH1’s "Surreal Life" on Sunday Nights along with "America’s Next Super Model." 

She seems to delight in not only saying rude things to others to their face and behind their backs. But she delights in the fact of trying to get her way on the "Surreal Life" by simply cursing the other celebrities on there and then using the excuse of "I’m a Super Model!" She is a model and a study in bullyism. 

Bullies come in all shapes and sizes. They come at you in person and in your emails in-box. They even come at you over your phone. No matter how long this chunk of rock we mer humans exist on, there will always be bullies to harangue us and try to make us feel like we are lower than a snake’s belly. 

Bully. What does the word make you think of? For some people, it's that girl at school who always makes fun of them. For others, it's the biggest guy in the neighborhood who's always trying to beat them up or take their things. Sometimes "bully" means a whole group of kids, ganging up on
someone else. No matter what situation or form it comes in, bullying can make you feel depressed, hurt, and alone. It can keep you from enjoying the activities and places that are part of your life. Bullying happens everywhere, whether it's your town or Paris, France. It happens all the time, and it's happened since forever. Because it's so common, many adults think bullying is just a normal part of growing up. You've probably heard parents or teachers s But why should something that can make a person so miserable have to be part of growing up? The answer is, it doesn't! Each and every one of us has the right to feel safe in our lives and good about ourselves. So IML put together this guide to give you all the basics of dealing with bullies. Let's start by looking at the different kinds of bullying: Physical bullying means: Hitting, kicking, or pushing someone...or even just threatening to do it Stealing, hiding or ruining someone's things Making someone do things he or she don't want to do Verbal bullying means: Name-calling Teasing Insulting Relationship bullying means: Refusing to talk to someone Spreading lies or rumors about someone Making someone do things he or she doesn't want to do What do all these things have in common? They're examples of ways one person can make another person feel hurt, afraid, or uncomfortable. When these are done to someone more than once, and usually over and over again for a long period of time, that's bullying. The reason why one kid would want to bully another kid is this: when you make someone feel bad, you gain power over him or her. Power makes people feel like they're better than another person, and then that makes them feel really good about themselves. Power also makes you stand out from the crowd. It's a way to get attention from other kids, and even from adults.ay things like: "Don't let it get to you" or "You just have to be tougher."

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Ok I has been taking me awhile to decide what issue I want to discuss about. I have changed it three time but I have decide to look at an issue that has been an issue in the school system for years.  BULLYING!!!!

Here is a link of an organization that wants to stop bullying. Its pretty great!

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